I've been reading "Sane Woman's Guide to Raising a Large Family." I've really enjoyed the author, Mary Ostyn's witty, truthful and practical advice and perspective. She and her husband have 10 children, 4 bio and 6 adopted, they currently range from 4-20 (or when the book was written).
She really does seem to balance ideals and reality very well. For instance, she holds on to her ideals, like her desire that all her children function in harmony, but with practical advice about reality and how to encourage this to happen.
One perspective I love that is woven through her book is the importance of relationships. She admits that a large family with many priorities makes relationships a challenge, but she really draws every thing back to how to make it a priority! Plus, she is just funny! I like the way she views her children, her family and her role as mother.